Again just some food for thought

Many married couples use birth control to delay having children until they are more mature, financially stable, emotionally stable, etc. That is not selfish at all. It’s to provide the child and family a better life.

A lot of people refer to Genesis 38 to say birth control is wrong. It’s not birth control that is wrong in this passage, though, it’s the motivation behind using birth control. Just like the verse about how the love of money is the root of all evil. it’s not the money that’s wrong; it’s the motivation.

Also, 1 Corinthians 7 it talks about how married couples shouldn’t abstain from sex except for prayer and fasting. The Bible is clear that couples are to sexually satisfy one another, which means coming together on a regular basis. God has provided us a way to do that without having children. God provides the best for his children, and I believe he would want parents to do the same for their children. Having too many children makes that more difficult and in some cases impossible. I think having too many children, more than the parent’s resources (financial, emotional, time, etc) allow, is irresponsible and not God-honoring. I think there’s some verses in the epistles that talk about how a man should be able to care for his family or something like that (but i think the verses might be referring to widows not children. I don’t know. I can’t remember. Regardless, it’s the same concept.).

Also, I think the commands God gives to people in the Bible to “be fruitful and multiply” are specifically for those people and not for ALL married people.